Before I had kids I wasn't an angry person, but since, I have seen red more than more whole entire life before kids. The question is why? I know I'm not alone because kids have a way of making parents crazy, even the angel children and the weirdly calm parents.
I've thought about it and I think there is a whole list of reasons why. One such reason is that as we grow older we are used to not being questioned and when we tell someone to do something or suggest it people for the most part do it. Not so much with kids, at least the younger ones (I have hope that as my boys grow older they will start actually listening to the words that come out of my mouth and not interpreting them their own way). My oldest, Cade, was never a why kid, but when Cam came around and started talking every other word was/is why? I swear that kid knows the rules of the road by heart because when we drive he asks all the traffic laws. It can get very tiring, but what can you say? "the double is that way because I said, enough!" Just when I thought the why kid was tough I got the worst kind, the selective hearing kid, Kellen.
Kellen is my son who never hears what you have to say and if by some chance he does hear you and it's not what he wants to hear, then he hears it differently. AHHHHH! This is the worst kid because you are CONSTANTLY repeating, screaming, time out-ing this kind. Although Kolin hasn't quite reached the age to know what he's going to be like stubborn is already his middle name. Back to the anger.
No matter how much you say you aren't going to be a yeller when you are a parent it is an inevitable phenomenon. There are and will be times when your child does not hear you whether by choice or not and screaming/yelling is the only way you can get through to them. I used to feel guilty about yelling at my kids, but then I started listening to my other fellow moms and realized that I am not alone. Thank goodness. Along with the yelling is the frustration that toys are everywhere, your kids leave their stuff, ie: dishes, clothes, homework, backpacks, toys... EVERYWHERE. It drives me crazy and I actually warn my boys that "mommy is on the edge and you better start making this place look like a house instead of a barn or I'm going to lose it!" Eye twitching is also a good indicator.
When your feeling like the only crazy angry mom out there know that you are not alone. It's hard to teach your children every day to be good people who are responsible, smart and clean. Give your self a pat on the back that you're trying and know that every mom gets mad and the more kids you have just multiplies the anger some times.
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So so true! I was so sick yesterday that I actually sat down and cried when they wouldn't behave. They just stared at me like I was nuts. So I started vacuuming up their legos. THAT got their attention and I didn't have to yell :)
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